Even Best Friends Change
Agustus 02, 2019
There have been many
goodbyes in my life. Elementary school and high schools graduations used to be
that heart-breaking. At first we kept in touch and seemed to be best friend
forever. We posted some old photos in social media showing that we’ve missed
each other and had craving for meetings. We sent news and shared stories.
As the time goes by, we had
new friends, comfort places, environments, and daily routines. We're busy of unusual stuff. We started to
have hands full and too busy to remember old friends.
I used to have a very close friend in
elementary school, 13 years ago lol. We were like sisters, cooking and playing together.
Now she got married and has had a baby. I never saw her anymore. I also had a
very best friend in JHS. She was my seatmate for three years. We met like three
or four times after entering senior high. Then, everything is different. It's
gonna be nice to see her again, but the excitement is no longer there, no
longer as enthusiastic as it used to be. Now I don't have her number, but at
least we follow each other on instagram. She seems to be more religious (which
is good), I guess, not exactly sure cause we never saw each other anymore, yet I
could see her photos on instagram. What else could I do to be less judgemental
if the only thing I do is only seeing someone through her social media? Saaaad. Seriously
don't be like me.
Why do people change? I mean,
from a friend, very best friend, to be a complete stranger afterwards. It’s ridiculous.
It’s probably what happens
between some people and their exes. We used to be together and loved each
other, but after breaking up, then that’s it. It’s hard to bring back our past,
and suddenly he became a hard nut to crack, building up his tallest wall which
I couldn't get through. I turned to be someone else...and it seems profoundly normal.
Another story happens months
ago. A best friend of mine in college called me at least once a day. She was
facing hard times finding a job, financial issues, and family things. She told
me that friends are leaving, only me instead. Weeks ago, she finally told me
that she had a new job that she has dreamt of. I am very happy, I really am.
But she started to be busy, and never called me back. Just some comments on
our social media and sometimes asking how it is going with our lives.
That’s the point. We can
never force anyone to stay. If they want to stay, they will. If they don't, what
else could we do? In the end, everyone will find their own ‘match’. They'll have their own job, relationship, and comfort zone. At least we know that we’re
loved eventhough she/he’s not physically here. We just need to think that a
bird in the hand is worth two in the bush, meaning that we still have friends
around, so, easy does it.
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